Steps Involved in Getting Married
Contact me to discuss the type of ceremony you want and my availability. There is no cost for this initial meeting. This is where you get the chance to “check me out”. We can then set up a meeting to go through your options.
If you decide to book me to conduct your wedding you can complete the online booking form and pay a non-refundable deposit. Once the deposit is paid a ‘Marriage Kit’ including a 60 page book of ideas and sample ceremonies is sent to you with heaps of useful information.
In the kit is a “Notice of Intended Marriage ” together with a request for other information/documentation. This Notice must be lodged with me one month before the wedding date. Do not complete the back of this form (Page 4) until we next meet, or you have it witnessed by another appropriate person who is listed on the back of the form as being able to witness your signatures.
Complete the front of the form and bring this with you to our next meeting. At the time of signing, I will need to view your ID and Proof of Date and Place of Birth (kit advises what type of ID is required) along with documentation if either party has been previously married. (You must provide evidence of how the marriage ended, usually a Certificate of Divorce in the case of divorce, or a death certificate if a previous partner is deceased). The Divorce certificate has changed names quite a few times so your certificate may be called something different – eg Decree Absolute.
We will discuss your requirements for the ceremony and I can loan any resources required. Music is more than likely being discussed now as well as poetry etc.
Forward your answers to the questionnaire that we have gone through during our meetings along with any idea you may have on the ceremony.
I will type up the draft, and create your ceremony using the information you have given to me and forward a copy back to you.
I would never suggest having a wedding without a rehearsal, preferably at the place of the marriage, or some other suitable venue if this is not possible. It is usual at the rehearsal to go over the paperwork for the ceremony so you are familiar with it. The rehearsal is an integral part of the process, a chance to go through all the choreography that can make or break your ceremony. It is also a time of bonding for families, the bridal party and even the couple. The balance of my fee is usually paid at this time.
Any modifications to the ceremony will be addressed along the way, with the final draft being completed at least two weeks prior to the wedding. I will forward a final draft to you for authorisation. This is a team effort so we do go back and forth a bit till we ‘get it just right’.
On the day, and at the place and time arranged, all parties including the guests, meet and the marriage takes place. I normally arrive around 1 hour before the ceremony is due to commence.
I will forward all legal documentation to the appropriate organisation (Births, Deaths and Marriages) within fourteen days of the wedding.