I am in a committed same-sex relationship myself – and was honoured when my partner Di recently proposed on the 15th Nov 2017 – in preparation for your marriage in 2018.
I believe that every person regardless of sex or religion is entitled to publicly declare their love in a ceremony. Greens leader Senator Bob Brown -The Age 27th Nov 2009 says: “Why on earth in 2009 can’t this Labor Government remove discrimination from people who care to love each other and want to engage in the same rights to publicly celebrating that connection that everybody else in the community has? ”
Although I personally was appalled that the Government chose to spend $122 million asking the public to vote on our right to marry – I was certainly happy with the positive result. Now we just need to government to change the legislation before we can start making plans to marry couples of the same sex.
From AGD 17th Nov 2017 – “we have updated our website, www.ag.gov.au/marriage to say that while a bill has been introduced (the Marriage Amendment (Definition and Religious Freedoms) Bill 2017 (Dean Smith Bill)), the Marriage Act 1961 has not changed. If the definition of marriage is changed to provide for same‑sex marriage and no further changes are made to the marriage process, couples would be able to lodge a notice of intended marriage with an authorised celebrant from the date the new law commenced. We will publish guidance material following the passage of any amendments.”
Sample ceremony – full copyright applies – do not reproduce without permission.
Good afternoon my name is Sally Cant and I am a civil celebrant and very pleased to have been asked to conduct this ceremony today. I welcome you here today to bear witness with me to the life long partnership of Trudy and Jane . We are here not only to witness their commitment to each other, but also to wish them well and every happiness in their life together. Trudy and Jane acknowledge the special relationship that they share. They have found it easy to be honest and open with each other, and comfortable with their family and friends; and for that they would like to thank you. It is their wish today to declare their love and partnership before you all. It is a statement of a mutual relationship and commitment to each other. Trudy and Jane want to honour their relationship with the significance of a ritual and today we will dedicate an afternoon not only to Trudy and Jane but to the family they have created who are with us today.
I am obliged to clearly indicate to you all that although this ceremony does not represent a legal marriage, it does however represent a moral one. A commitment such as yours involves the voluntary and full commitment of the two of you. It is made in the deepest sense to the exclusion of all others, and, it is entered into with the desire, the hope, and the firm intention that it will last for life.
Trudy and Jane’s story – this was about 5-10 minutes telling their story (their journey together, family, travel, accomplishments, their work and their love for one another) .
Reading by Sally
When two people join together
and bond their lives forever
because they are certain they have something special that will make their commitment lastÖ
this is the first act of faith.
Upon this act of faith these two people will build a life.
and as long as their determination stays with them
this life will always be their hope, their dreams, their truth, their being, their inspiration,
and their source of strength.
Through their life together, they will hurt and laugh.
Together they will feel all of lifeís up and downs.
They will learn and grow through trial and error.
The lessons will show them the meaning of true love
And the difference between a love that lasts
and one that just gives up.
These two people will face each failure together and
discover the strength to go on.
They will encourage each otherís dreams and forgive each otherís faults.
Through a labour of love.
these two will become as one,
fighting against the odds and ultimately creating
a commitment that will grow into an infinite love.
Jane , will you take Trudy to be your life long partner. Will you love and respect her, be honest with her and stand by her, through whatever life may hold so you can genuinely share your life together?
Trudy, will you take Jane to be your life long partner. Will you love and respect her, be honest with her and stand by her, through whatever life may hold so you can genuinely share your life together?
Jane , I want to be with you always just as you are. I choose you above all others to share my life with me. I love you for yourself and I want you to become all that you can be.
Trudy, I want to be with you always just as you are. I choose you above all others to share my life with me. I love you for yourself and I want you to become all that you can be.
Trudy accept this ring with my love. Take it and wear it as a symbol of all we share today and always. I love you without exception or reward. I love you because you are you and not in spite of it.
Jane accept this ring with my love. Take it and wear it as a symbol of all we share today and always. I love you without exception or reward. I love you because you are you and not in spite of it.
From the words of Richard Bach I’d like to quote a few lines from his book titled ‘One’.
‘An easy life doesn’t teach us anything. In the end it’s the learning that matters: what we’ve learned and how we’ve grown.
We can have excuses, or we can have health, love, longevity, understanding, adventure, money, happiness. We design our lives through the power of our choices.
We are each given a block of marble when we begin a lifetime, and the tools to shape it into sculpture… We can drag it behind us untouched, we can pound it into gravel, or we can shape it into glory.
We generate our own environment.
And from ìIllusionsî
The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.
These are profound words and in the case of Trudy and Jane who are both people who choose not always to take the easy option, but together they are sculpturing a relationship that they are both proud of, they are both committed to the growth of their family unit and committed to the relationship.
Our hearts are filled with great happiness on Jane and Trudy’s special day as they pledge their hearts and love to one another. Grant it that they may ever be true and loving, living their lives in such a way as to never bring shame or heartbreak into their relationship. Temper their hearts with kindness and understanding, rid them of all pretence or jealousy. Help them to remember to be each other’s sweethearts, help mates, best friend and guide, so that together they may meet the cares and problems of life more bravely. And with passage of time, may they find great contentment in the rich joy of senior companionship.
May their lives be full of love and harmony, where good spirit is always present.I think generally wanting a relationship to stay strong you must be committed to staying true to yourself, committed to accepting yourself as is, committed to standing up for what you believe in. Committed to expressing your essential nature so that with your partner all of you comes shining through. Commitments lead us to the place where we can stop, look around, and say – I’m home.
Today is a celebration of your relationship. Everyone here wishes you continued happiness and we all hope that life will continue to hold the very best of everything for you.
By having this ceremony here today I hope it will in some way increase your capacity to live your life to the fullest. Congratulations to you both.