Commitment Ceremony

Commitment Ceremonies are a celebration of the bond of love between two people. Although with the current laws in most states and territories of Australia it is not yet a legal commitment – it is however an ethical one. A commitment to a loved one is a one of the most meaningful moments in a persons life. And regardless of your sex, age or cultural background I would love to work with you to create a cherished moment in your life.

I am a personal advocate for the gay community – and stand up for the individual rights of every human being. I think denying anyone the right to marry because of gender or sexuality is simply not fair. Please go to www.australianmarriageequality.org/for more information on this topic. I am proudly an Authorised Celebrant under the Marriage Equality Act 2013. (ACT Government)

My fee for a commitment ceremony starts at $440.00 – depending on what you are after.

Some couples decide to celebrate this commitment with a simple private ceremony. Others decide to have a large celebration to ask their family, friends and coworkers to come together to recognize the relationship.
However you decide to celebrate this moment, it is important to take some time to reflect on your feelings, your love for each other, and your commitment to each other.
Please note – there are no legal benefits to having a Commitment Ceremony. The difference is that rather than being a legally binding ceremony, it is simply a public affirmation of a couples commitment to one another.
Generally these ceremonies are for those couple who are unable to marry under the law.

A commitment ceremony is usually secular and less formal. However this is a choice you make with the options available. The makeup of the ceremony will depend on the couple’s own preferences.
However, generally speaking, these might be the key elements:

Introduction

I welcome guests to a celebration of the love and commitment between the couple.
I will also say a few words about their relationship, or about marriage/commitment in general.

Vows

This is the part where the couple declares their intent to be a committed couple.
They will make promises about what that commitment means.
I encourage all couples to write their own vows.

Readings/Music

A secular ceremony will usually also include music and readings about love, including poems, passages of literature, famous quotes, personal writing, pop songs, and classic wedding music. I always suggest that it should be the type of music you both love and something that flows with the general feel of the ceremony.

Exchange of Rings

The couple exchanges rings, and say a few words about what these rings mean.

Declaration

I announce to the guests that the couple are now partners for life, and invite the couple to kiss.
Most couples relish the moment to have the opportunity to kiss each other in front of their loved ones, proclaiming their love, and pride in having that love.

Sample Commitment Ceremony © copyright no part of this ceremony may be reproduced in any form without my written permission

Introduction

Good afternoon my name is Sally Cant and I am a civil celebrant and very pleased to have been asked to conduct this ceremony today.
I welcome you here today to bear witness with me to the life long partnership of Rachel and Samantha.
We are here not only to witness their commitment to each other, but also to wish them well and every happiness in their life together.
Rachel and Samantha acknowledge the special relationship that they share. They have found it easy to be honest and open with each other, and comfortable with their family and friends; and for that they would like to thank you. It is their wish today to declare their love and partnership before you all. It is a statement of a mutual relationship and commitment to each other. Rachel and Samantha want to honour their relationship with the significance of a ritual and today we will dedicate an afternoon not only to Rachel and Samantha but to the family they have created who are with us today.

Statement

I am obliged to clearly indicate to you all that this ceremony does not represent a legal marriage, but however it does represent a moral one.
A commitment such as yours involves the voluntary and full commitment of the two of you.
It is made in the deepest sense to the exclusion of all others, and, it is entered into with the desire, the hope, and the firm intention that it will last for life.

Couples Story – this is personal and as such I have not included it for this purpose.

Reading by Sally
When two people join together and bond their lives forever
because they are certain they have something special that will make their commitment last…
this is the first act of faith.
Upon this act of faith these two people will build a life.
and as long as their determination stays with them
this life will always be their hope, their dreams, their truth, their being, their inspiration,
and their source of strength.
Through their life together, they will hurt and laugh.
Together they will feel all of life’s up and downs.
They will learn and grow through trial and error.
The lessons will show them the meaning of true love
And the difference between a love that lasts
and one that just gives up.
These two people will face each failure together and
discover the strength to go on.
They will encourage each other’s dreams and forgive each other’s faults.
Through a labour of love.
these two will become as one,
fighting against the odds and ultimately creating
a commitment that will grow into an infinite love.
Regina Hill

The Asking

Samantha
Samantha, will you take Rachel to be your life long partner.
Will you love and respect her, be honest with her and stand by her, through whatever life may hold so you can genuinely share your life together?
(I will)

Rachel
Rachel, will you take Samantha to be your life long partner. Will you love and respect her, be honest with her and stand by her, through whatever life may hold so you can genuinely share your life together?
(I will)

Vows

Rachel
Samantha, I want to be with you always just as you are.
I choose you above all others to share my life with me.
I love you for yourself and I want you to become all that you can be.

Samantha
Rachel, I want to be with you always just as you are.
I choose you above all others to share my life with me.
I love you for yourself and I want you to become all that you can be.

Rings

Samantha
Rachel accept this ring with my love.
Take it and wear it as a symbol of all we share today and always.
I love you without exception or reward.
I love you because you are you and not in spite of it.

Rachel
Samantha accept this ring with my love.
Take it and wear it as a symbol of all we share today and always.
I love you without exception or reward.
I love you because you are you and not in spite of it.

Sally
From the words of Richard Bach I’d like to quote a few lines from his book titled One.
An easy life doesn’t teach us anything. In the end it’s the learning that matters: what we’ve learned and how we’ve grown.
We can have excuses, or we can have health, love, longevity, understanding, adventure, money, happiness.
We design our lives through the power of our choices.
We are each given a block of marble when we begin a lifetime, and the tools to shape it into sculpture…
We can drag it behind us untouched, we can pound it into gravel, or we can shape it into glory.
We generate our own environment.
And from Illusions
…The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect
and joy in each other’s life.These are profound words and in the case of Rachel and Samantha who are both people who choose not always to take the easy option, but together they are sculpturing a relationship that they are both proud of, they are both committed to the growth of their family unit and committed to the relationship.

Declaration

I think generally wanting a relationship to stay strong you must be committed to staying true to yourself, committed to accepting yourself as is, committed to standing up for what you believe in. Committed to expressing your essential nature so that with your partner all of you comes shining through.
Commitment is not a blind vow, it is an act of faith made with your eyes wide open. You make a commitment like this only with someone who sees and loves you for who you are, someone whom you desire to know better than any other being on the planet, whom you want to love unconditionally.
Commitment stretches us, it often pushes us past our comfort zone. They invite us to have more faith and find love in unexpected places. They dare us to surrender to something grander than we ever imagined, something beyond a passing feeling or infatuation, beyond fear and insecurities. Commitments lead us to the place where we can stop, look around, and say I’m home
Today is a celebration of your relationship. Everyone here wishes you continued happiness and we all hope that life will continue to hold the very best of everything for you.
By having this ceremony here today I hope it will in some way increase your capacity to live your life to the fullest. Congratulations to you both.

Signing of certificate

Presentation of certificate